Cass

There is a point in your healing when being “the bigger person” starts to look suspiciously close to self-abandonment. You have been patient. You have been reasonable. You have given people room to grow, room to explain themselves, room to apologize, room to disappoint you, and room to come back after they have already shown you what they are willing to do with your trust. At some point, Collective, the issue is no longer whether you are kind.

One of the most common pieces of advice women hear is “you can’t love someone until you love yourself.” That suggestion may be just what some folks need. But, collectively, the question may not be whether you love yourself anymore. You have already completed the work. You've had the difficult conversations, stepped away from what's draining you, and rebuilt your confidence, standards, limits, and relationship with your inner voice.

People often seek rituals when something in their lives needs a specific kind of support. This could be a New beginning. Relationship ending. Move. Full/New moon. Birthday. Grief anniversary. Business shift. Season where the body feels restless, the mind feels crowded, or the spirit feels ready for something different. The moment can be either dramatic or ordinary.